Thread: Suppressed Study Shows No Difference Between Same And Opposite-Sex Parents
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Old 05-15-2007, 12:16 AM   #36 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by mytmouse57 View Post
As to this whole notion that “both a mother and father don’t matter,” hmmmmm… I have to be more than a little dubious about that. Hell, just type “the importance of having an involved father” into Google… and you’ll get a gaggle of hits --- many of them from exhaustive studies by a wide range of experts.

To just give one example, I think it’s been shown over and again that a girl’s relationship with her father, esp. during her teenage years, will set the pattern for her relationship with men for the rest of her life. Too often, an absent, or cold, distant father, will lead to a young woman who sluts herself out just to get attention from men, and/or constantly ends up in abusive relationships.

So, to just say, “oh, it makes no damn difference at all whether kids have both a Mom and Dad” is, IMO, utterly insane.

That’s not to say a gay couple can’t raise a healthy child. But I think it’s a good alternative model, not a substitute for the real thing.
The root of the issue comes down to the GENDER of the parents.
If we had "two fathers" as opposed to a "mother and a father", would that cause problems?
Is there anything inherent to gender that a man could not take care of, if he were to replace a woman as the parent?
(Note, this is not the same question as if the number of active parents went from 2 to 1.)

You talk of "absence" issues and I agree. If a parent is absent, then that can cause problems.
However, that is an entirely separate issue then if the parent was of a different gender.

The issue of an "involved father" typically involves studies looking at single parenting versus dual parenting. Where the "father" being absent means there is ONLY ONE parent left.

To truly be comparative, we need to examine TWO parent house-holds versus TWO parent households.
And the research which actually did this repeatedly finds no detriment to the child if the parents happen to be of the same gender.
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