If every person that is gay, already in the military, admitted publicly they were gay, would we discharge them? Our country would be screwed. We'd lose way more soldiers than this other scenario. Don't kid yourself.
Anyone worried that much about other adult's consenting actions are homophobic and doomed to burn in hell for takng God's job as judge. Call it what you want, in the end everyons blood is red and are risking their lives to serve this country while others whine about these Hereo's private lives.
As for the churches who's elders or leaders think its ok for them to judge gays, they're going to hell too(according to the book they hold so literal).