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Originally Posted by fxashun  Again, read where I said that women are the "gate keepers". Especially in this day and age. With disease and children looming, you would think women wouldn't even be arguing this. Guys don't care. I know, because I slept with a few women that I would rather not remember. But then I matured. Women are supposed to mature faster than men. And with the responsibility that they have, they need to start using that maturity a little more.
Instill in your daughter a strong sense of self worth. Tell her to guard her virginity with all she is worth because you only lose it once and if the person who you give it to isn't worthy, it's a sickening feeling if you meet someone later who you wish you had saved it for.
And for the record, it's not an "attitude", it's simply a fact that women hold the key to their childs life. It's up to you to make sure your child is born into a safe, happy, prosperous nest. Even as a gay woman, I'm sure you know that. | Decent advice at the end there. Thanks.
But I am just stunned to see that I did not misunderstand your position somehow. You really do put all of the responsibility on the woman, and none on the man. And you believe that is the prevalent attitude out there.
Any woman having sex at any time had better be sure ahead of time that her partner will be a good father who will stick around forever, in case she gets pregnant. And if he says he will, and then runs off, that's her fault too. Really? Is that what you are really saying? Because I am still having trouble believing that's your (or anyone's) view.
When I asked why guys aren't told not to have sex if they don't want to be fathers, all you said was, "Guys don't care" and mature slower than women. That's your excuse for laying it all on the woman? Men are immoral and childish by nature, and it just can't be helped? Rather than suggesting that guys need to man up, you say it is entirely up to the woman to insure that the child has two decent parents?
That is so sad and so screwed up, and so sexist, that I don't even know where to start.
Other than to ask, with the advice you have given me on how to raise my daughter, how will you raise and advise your son on these matters? (It's rhetorical, I'm not asking you to defend your parenting skills to me.)
If this is truly "how it is" out there, I have more reason than ever to fear for my daughter's future. |