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Originally Posted by fxashun  I don't put all the responsibility on the woman. Biology did.... Honestly, who else is responsible for a woman getting pregnant? |
Unless we are talking about immaculate conception here, my biology textbook talked about it taking TWO people to get a women pregnant, and one of them, if I recall, was a man.
So who else is responsible? Come on now. Was your wife solely responsible for getting pregnant, or did you have something to do with it?
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Originally Posted by fxashun Women ARE the ones that will have to make the decision to have an abortion. |
So, tying it back to the thread topic, without taking the time to look back through this whole thread to refresh my memory on your position, I have to assume you are OK with a woman having the sole authority on abortion then.
If the woman has all the responsibility, then the woman has all the decision-making authority. It is even up to the woman if she chooses not to notify the man.
Do you agree?
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Originally Posted by fxashun Many guys don't give a damn. That's just a cold hard fact.... A man has no biological obligation for nothing but dropping sperm. |
And if I said the above words, I would be called a man-hating dyke. I can't believe I, a lesbian, think more highly of men than you, a straight man, do.
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Originally Posted by fxashun I don't see how anyone can take this responsibility lightly. Unfortunately it seems many do. |
And it will remain one unless people decide to SPEAK OUT against it, and ACT to change it. You don't seem bothered enough by it to work for (or even CALL for) any change on this issue. I see you validating the status quo.
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Originally Posted by fxashun As for my son, I'm gonna try to be as strong a father and male figure to him as I can. Show how much I love and respect his mother and try to instill a strong sense of family. |
I think that's a wonderful plan, and I hope it works out.
Now, many people take offense to being given parenting advice, but you gave me some from your heart, so now it's my turn. Please know I am saying this with only the best intentions, and I intend no offense: If there is one thing I have learned about guys, it's that guys do NOT get hints. Guys need stuff spelled out for them.
Set an example, of course, but if I may suggest, TALK about this issue with your son when the time is right. Be specific. Be clear. Tell him in no uncertain terms what your expectations are for him in this area.
Tell him the counterpart advice that you offered me for my daughter: if he has sex, he better be ready to be a father. And if he becomes one, he better BE there, and do right by his newly created family.
If you don't, if you keep simply validating the status quo, as you have been doing over our last few exchanges, I think it increases the chances of your son becoming a part of that status quo, despite your best example-setting.