Then they're the losers, as far as I'm concerned. Guess they are confusing 'nice guy' with something else? And just from reading your posts, I'd put you somewhere inbetween those opposites...

You have a caring disposition, have the ability to listen to others and consider outside of the box so to speak...But there's also a bit of steel in you, which means although you'd rather just get along, you're also willing to fight for what you believe is right, not 'wimp' out.

And I think that's what most women find attractive...Someone who's in the middle, so to speak, personality wise. Someone she can be herself with, talk to, but can depend will be there when there is trouble and not run...

Just my observation. But just how reading your posts comes across.