 Quote:
Originally Posted by nuttyjoe  Yes, unfortunately divorce tends to cost significantly. I was lucky because I was already financially well off. My ex got a nice "severance package". As I am partially paralyzed; ours was a one-time payday for her as awarded by the court. It actually could have been more; but no spousal support was also involved. The child support can be adjusted yearly according to income, so my earnings from investment income is paid to a trust.
I know of a man living near me whom dorce was devastating. I think in a lot of cases courts do not understand that many fathers do not choose to not support their children, but when they are hit for twenty percent (gross) of their pay; it now reduces that man to not being able to afford a mortgage, car payment, insurance payments, and other necessities. A lot of the "deadbeat dad" cases arise from the woman immediately moving in a boyfriend that the father is in effect now supporting. This is a slap in the face to men; whom refuse to subject themselves to this.It's like another man telling you that " you are going to pay me to satisfy the woman you couldn't." |
Oh, Jaysus, Joe.. don't even get me started on how the State of Idaho (the state in which I was divorced) treats non-custodial parents. Yes, I've heard of both non-custodial mothers and fathers getting taken to the cleaners.
There NEEDS to be some reform on child support laws. I'm all for nailing jerks who deliberatley don't pay it. But there has to be some regard for the non-custodial parent (which is usually a father) just being able to freakin' live and keep a roof over his own head... and have a decent place when his kids come to visit.
When I lost the good job I'd had at the time of my divorce, and my income become less than a third of what it had been, the burden was all on me to wade through a mile-high stack of paperwork and hearings to get my support payments adjusted. Meanwhile, of course, I got behind, and the state was threatening to pull my driver's license and all sorts of other nasty crap. Yeah.. like, think about that one. No driver's license means it would make it very difficult for me to find/keep a job.. you freakin' retards.
The "best" one I'm aware of happened to a friend of mine, who was working on becoming a master electricitan. Anyway, when he got behind, the state tried to pull his electrictian's license.
HELLO.. anybody home upstairs? The dude owes you money, so it's NOT the smartest thing to take away his BEST POSSIBLE SOURCE OF INCOME!!!!???
Anway.. sorry for the rant. But again, there simply has to be reform on this crap. The burden should be on the state to look at your income, weigh it against a reasonable cost of living in your area -- not luxury, just basic living expenses -- and take not more than one penny of what you can afford.
It should be a flat percentage. If your job changes and you make less, it should go down accordingly. If you get a new job/promotion, and are making more... it should go up accordingly.
Just my opinons on the matter. If at first you don’t succeed – try, try again and then quit. There’s no sense in making a damned fool of yourself. – W.C. Fields
|