I'll leave the personal issues between yourselves for you to deal with. As for the thread; I think the woman should have called a cab; or got a ride home from a friend.
I don't want to try to explain (because I can't) the letter of the law in such a situation as hers. All I know is that if you get behind the wheel of a vehicle while intoxicated; you will face substantial legal difficulties in every state that I know of.
With what her blood alcohol level was reported at; I think it is safe to assume that she had been drinking for quite awhile that day/evening. That is why Ithink she should have just called a cab; or stayed home to drink.
One other thing: is anyone familiar with dramshop ordinances? Where I live, such a situation could actually bring about the arrest of the bartender who served her (for serving her at such a level of intoxication); and the loss of the liquor license for the owner of the bar.
I know many of us like to have a drink or two from time to time. With the Super Bowl this Sunday; you can bet that there will be many people who will take this to an extreme. I will check the Police Beat ( listed in my local paper) from my area after Sunday to see just how many DUI's got issued that night. I invite everyone else to do the same. I'll let you know my findings around Wednesday.