I have to disagree with your "Men are never to blame" argument here; Gary. But Spitzer was a victim. A victim of his own inflated ego. And he will pay the ultimate price. That 4,000.00 dollars will be nothing compared to the loss of credibility in your career, and loss of the trust of your wife and children.
Now, I'm in no position to judge what marital problems the Spitzers may have been having. But before he went to this step and put so much on the line; he should have either filed for a divorce or a legal seperation. I think that if this had been the case; he wouldn't have everybody playing the "moral authority".