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Old 03-19-2008, 12:02 AM   #53 (permalink)
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Grace, I have children. I have two daughters actually. And one of them is 14. So I think I do have experience here. And my 14 year old is not having sex. And I recoil at the state telling me how to raise my children. So much so, that they aren't given all the immunizations that the state tries to force them to get. But I'll tell you this, if my daughter was to get pregnant, and if she wanted to terminate it, that would be her choice, not mine. And I would hope that she would tell me first, and allow me to support her in any way she needed. And hopefully I raised her well enough to trust me. The state wouldn't be forcing abortion on girls, only ensuring that their Constitutional rights were protected.
Unfortunately, I wasn't graced with daughters. BUT if I had been, what you said here sums up my own feelings if I did have daughters.

As a mother of boys though, I was sure to let my sons know that IF they'd gotten a young lady pregnant, that I'd be there for both of them to talk to and support what THEIR decision(s) were, on going through with a pregnancy, or termination.

Because my reasoning is, if they could make the choice to engage in sex that resulted in a pregnancy, then they would have to be adult enough to deal with making the decision of what to do about that pregnancy. And it wasn't my place to judge whether that decision was right or wrong, just be there for them during and after making whatever decision they did make.

I also acknowledge that how I raised my children in a home atmosphere that allowed for such open and frank discussion regarding sex and consequences...Is a rare occurance. And it isn't my place to tell the girl what she should/shouldn't tell her parents because she's the one that would know better in how they'd react by what they've told her themselves about such issues.

I'd have suggested her talking to her parents, but I wouldn't force her or go behind her back to make an already scary situation scarier...As well as break the trust that my being there to listen I'd have broken by not letting her do as she saw fit in regards to her own family and situation.
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