BINGO!

I had a friend who got pregnant out of wedlock, who's parents disowned her right after she got pregnant and had her move in with her grandparents (she was 17). They had made off-handed comments prior to that about disowning a child that got pregnant out of wedlock, and she learned just how serious they had been by continueing with the pregnancy. Her parents wouldn't give her consent to abort, which she wouldn't have done anyways at that time. Her parents then moved out of state, and and refused to have anything to do with her or her son till that child was 4 years old...

When he was 5, she found out she was pregnant again...Rather then be ostricized by her parents and sister again for continuing a pregnancy and not being married prior to said pregnancy? She decided the only option she had was to terminate the pregnancy...If she didn't have the child, then her parents wouldn't disown her and her son again.

The worse part was, she wanted the baby then as well. But she felt forced that she had no option but to do it cause she knew exactly how her family would treat her. That they'd condemn her for getting pregnant in the first place, then more then likely wouldn't have anything ever again to do with her or either of her children.

A good parent wouldn't make their child feel afraid in the first place, through words or innuendo, of dealing with an unplanned pregnancy...It's the fear that 'bad' parents creates about such situations, that makes a young lady unwilling to approach them in the first place...Not an open, trusting relationship where the young lady would feel safe to discuss an unplanned pregnancy she found herself in.

So if you want to place blame on who encourages the young lady not to approach the parent about it? You need to be looking at the parents that are raising those young ladies that feel they can't tell their parents, who in that case need the right to privacy to handle the situation as they see fit without parental consent in the first place.