Gary, I am independent and don't expect other people to do for me, and don't really trust people enough to depend on others for much. As far as my husband goes, he doesn't drink much, and doesn't like hanging out after work with the same guys he was with all day, and would rather come home and eat dinner and spend time with the kids. He is as pussy whipped as any other husband is out there. And what don't you understand about men not bearing the lion's share any where near the amount that they used to. Today we all bear the lion's share just to survive and put food on the table. And as far as being married to a deadbeat goes, not even close. So he isn't as good at yard work or chores as some might be, but he makes up for that in other areas.