She also has access to the records. She has credit cards that are in her name and her own bank/retirement/investment accounts. It's just that I pay the bills and balance the checkbooks. It's not a short leash, it's just the system that we have. It's worked for us thus far, we see no need to change it.
That's the funny thing about "trust", and "love". When you have it, it's not "checking up" when we call each other, it's more like we enjoy each other's company and when thought leave what we are doing at the time, they gravitate toward the person we married. So we call each other.

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No offense, I'm just curious, but if you trust her, why does she have to be checked on several times a day and account to you for any money she spends?

What? I call her when I leave or and arrive somewhere, and she does the same. That's just something we do. And I don't check her account, I just pay them and have access to all the money. Keeping an eye on the credit card transactions is how you avoid theft and fraud. Most personal finance professionals recommend that you do that. See, you must have something to hide, we don't. She has a corporate account, corporate cellphone, and company issues vehicle as well, all of which can be used for extra curricular activities if she had the urge, I don't worry about that though.
I didn't say she had to account to me for any money she spends. We have been known to rack up over $1k in eating out a month. But it's just common courtesy to let your spouse know when you are gonna buy a new Playstation for $400.

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I would imagine that it's not most mens 'cup of tea'. But you know, there are just some of us out here that will only settle for some freedom, or total freedom.

Yeah sounds like someone is "settling".