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Old 07-10-2008, 10:08 AM   #105 (permalink)
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I have a 14 year old daughter, and I'm open to talking about sex with her. And I do. But 9 times out of 10, she rolls her eyes and doesn't want to talk about it. It is embarrassing to her to talk with me about it. And as I said, I am very cool and open about this stuff. We talk about everything together, religion, politics, history, music, clothes, etc. But when I trun the conversation to boys or sex, she is visibly looking for a place to hide. So I am very thankful that she has some other information from school besides what the other kids are telling her. We are very close, and we have discussed sex, and she knows what I needed her to know about it, but she isn't going to come to me with the important questions, especially if she thinks I would not approve of what she is asking about. (The only thing that I don't approve of is her having sex at 14, but if she were going to, she isn't going to tell me until a long time afterwards.) So can you imagine how some of these other kids whose parents don't discuss sex with them, or who have made it clear to their kids in some way that it is unacceptable for them to have these human urges or to act on them, must feel when faced with making choices about their sexual lives?

I have a 14 year old nephew who does the same thing. Since his mother has made it clear that she is uncomfortable discussing sex with him and that she trusts me to tell him the right things and since his father is a loser who is apt to teach him a bunch of macho bullshit, I just keep talking anyway.

He may roll his eyes and look away. He may not respond. But so far he hasn't left the room or told me to shut up. And just a couple of months ago he told me that he likes talking to me because we can (and do) talk about anything. (I think we were talking about our mutual love of classic rock that particular day.)

At any rate, I know he hears me. And I know that he knows that what I tell him comes from my love of him and my desire to keep him safe.
So, as his surrogate parent, I just keep yappng. If a little embarrassment now can save him from an STD or from too early fatherhood then it will definitely have been worth it.
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