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Originally Posted by waitingtables  Rape is not about sex, it's about power and violence. Where do you come up with this crap? Do you read what you say after you type it? To you it's a crime of convenience, just getting what you want without putting in the effort. That is the most screwed up thing I've ever heard. Your lack of awareness of anything to do with women is actually frightening. And your analyses of the situations are more often that not, serioulsy off the mark. |
I didn't say anything about rape. But the power and violence might be the reason for
some rapes, others are simply because they want sex. Saying it is about violence and power flies in the face of that "hypothetical" on that other thread. The guy simply drugged the chick, screwed her, and left no evidence. Doesn't sound very violent or anything.
Sometimes its simply a case of desirable women are hard to come by. And "some" men will rape one rather than jump through the hoops to try and get one of them.
For some men, rape IS a crime of convenience. What part of that is wrong? Instead of thinking that I don't know women, in this case, you are showing that you don't know some men.
Here's a great quote that spells out the differences in our points of view.
"Rape is a crime of the heart for the victim, but it is a crime of convenience for the perpetrator," said Cooper.
Men just think differently than women...
Men rated intercourse against the woman's wishes as significantly more justifiable when the woman initiated the date, when the man paid and when the couple went to the man's apartment.
UCLA researchers posed similar questions to teens. A high percentage of the male teens felt that forced sex was acceptable if the woman said yes and then changed her mind (54%), if he spent a lot of money on her (39%), if she "led him on" (54%), and if he is so turned on that he thinks he can't stop (36%).
I'm not excusing it, just pointing out a fact of the matter.
