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Observer · 02-06-2007, 03:08 PM

I posted the following to "Oh Dear" in the thread entitled "Pro-choice or Pro-life? Debate which position seems to be most morally correct." I should have entitled this thread, "Together We CAN Make a Difference!" but in editing, was unable to see how to do it.

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I worked in the courts for 17 years. One of my principle jobs was issuing those garnishments, not to mention orders to appear to show cause. I knew every case whether the child support was paid, if on time, how much or if at all. My job also included the filing of divorce proceedings, orders to appear (show cause), as well as petitions for support (cases where the couple was not married). I filed requests for protection, so you can see "I've been there, done that."

I know what it's like to go through a divorce as I am divorced. I understand raising children alone as I have 5. No one can tell me anything about what it's like to raise children alone without their father.

I am also the product of a broken home. My mother divorced my dad when I was 5. I know full well what it's like to be raised without a father AND a mother, as my mother more or less deserted my brother and me, leaving us with a family that made a living taking care of children like us throughout the week. We spent one day a week with our mother IF she was home, and one night and a day with our maternal grandparents who were God-fearing people who loved us dearly. God bless their souls. Without their influence in my life, it's hard to imagine how I might have turned out. As they say, "But for the grace of God, there go I".

I can also attest to what it's like to live in a home with an alcoholic step-father, still deprived of the love of a father, MY father, whom my mother denied visitation. When he went to the courts to insure that she submit to the visitation order, she made his life so miserable he didn't want to come around.

There's not a whole lot you can tell me about what a child is deprived of growing up. I've seen just about all of it, except sexual abuse, but I suffered emotional, mental and physical abuse from my mother and step-dad.

My desire is to see every child raised in the very best environment this world can afford. The only way we can accomplish this is to quit making excuses for those who habitually make the wrong decisions, live for self without considering how their actions (or lack of) affect others, and continually, without regard for their actions on others, take the easy way out.

Proverbs 16:25 -
There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.

My purpose for this discussion is not to blame or accuse. I personally feel that people behave certain ways because they just don't know any other way.

It is my desire to change our society, stop the eternal bickering on whether a fetus is a baby or not, whether or not abortion should or should not be legal, but to change our ways of living so that the discussion is no longer a hot topic.