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Originally Posted by chrisg967  I think in general people realize their value when they are valued, give respect when they are respected, and gain self-esteem when they are loved. The more we can show we value, respect and love one another, the better off humanity will be. | This is true and the key word is "in general". Fatherless girls don't fall in this category because they lack the basics that come naturally to others. Quote: |
There are alot of STDs out there. That alone is a reason to abstain, in my opinion.
| I agree, but the girls we're talking about don't have enough self-love to not take that chance. Not trying to be obstinate, Chris, but we're not talking about "normal" on this page.
There's a saying that goes like this: If you've never known love, how would you know how or what to give?
We are able to give only what we know. We are taught by example. If we had poor parents, 9 times out of 10, we'll be poor parents. Even when we try to be different.
Who we label "poor parents" are most likely people who had poor parents. They simply mimic what they've seen.
When I got married, I vowed my marriage would be different than my mother and stepdad's. I didn't marry a drinker or an alcoholic, my husband and I never fought. I vowed I would be a different mother to my children than my mother was to me. Everything I managed to make different than my parents was superficial, but I still carried (unknown to me) baggage into my marriage, that eventually culminated in divorce. Most of it, I know now was because of insecurities I never overcame. I simply didn't know what was lacking, nor how to attain it. How can you attain that particular thing you're missing when you don't know what it is or that you're missing it? |