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MotherJones.com | MoJo Blog - Social Issues and Political Commentary: Divorce Rates Are Low—Because Fewer Are Marrying
This is an interesting statistic...
I know I for one am in no real rush to get married. From my perspective the only benefit to a marriage is extra pay (the military pays married folks more). But then there is the risk of losing half of everything should it not work out.
So here's my question, if you are in a committed relationship, and happy, why marry? | 
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Originally Posted by tadpole256  | To have the privelage of calling my hubby hubby in the spiritual and legal sense...Also, it was the only way that he was allowed to live with me in the States...  | |
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But personally, I have no spiritual need to validate my relationship, and I prefer to keep the government out of it... So... Why bother?
A government document doesn't make a marriage. I think you can validly call yourself married if you have made a life commitment to another. | |
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Originally Posted by tadpole256 | That is a valid point. Why complicate matters. However, for me it would give me peace of mind and strengthen the relationship.
Plus, your spouse is entitled to social security survivor benefits that will help her in the event of your death. There are tax advantages too.
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The Social Security point is a good one if you believe that Social Security will be around when you are old enough to qualify.
As for strengthening the relationship, if your relationship is strong I don't see why you need a certificate from the government to show it... | |
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Originally Posted by tadpole256 Not all of the "Tax Advantages" are advantages...
The Social Security point is a good one if you believe that Social Security will be around when you are old enough to qualify.
As for strengthening the relationship, if your relationship is strong I don't see why you need a certificate from the government to show it... | Estate taxes are important to think about.
Maybe for you it does not matter for you, but having that certificate would mean a lot to me.
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Originally Posted by tadpole256 Not all of the "Tax Advantages" are advantages...
The Social Security point is a good one if you believe that Social Security will be around when you are old enough to qualify.
As for strengthening the relationship, if your relationship is strong I don't see why you need a certificate from the government to show it... | You might want to think about what might happen if you are a couple of thousand miles from home and one of you is hospitalized and unconscious. (May it never, ever, ever happen!) Not being legally married means no right to make medical decisions unless you have a medical power of attorney.
To me, that scenario and inheritance rights are the two biggest arguments in favor of legal marriage.
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Originally Posted by CrazyFlamingos You might want to think about what might happen if you are a couple of thousand miles from home and one of you is hospitalized and unconscious. (May it never, ever, ever happen!) Not being legally married means no right to make medical decisions unless you have a medical power of attorney.
To me, that scenario and inheritance rights are the two biggest arguments in favor of legal marriage. | You lot are all obsessed with the legal and financial benefits of marriage
What's wrong with marrying someone because you want to make a lifelong commitment to each other and raise a family together?
That is far far more important than all the legal crap.
And if you even think for one minute that you may not be able to make a success out of marriage then don't do it
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Originally Posted by garysher You lot are all obsessed with the legal and financial benefits of marriage
What's wrong with marrying someone because you want to make a lifelong commitment to each other and raise a family together?
That is far far more important than all the legal crap.
And if you even think for one minute that you may not be able to make a success out of marriage then don't do it | Good grief, Gary! You are arguing to me about legal marriage and calling me bitter for thinking the legal aspects of marriage could be laid aside, and yet here you are calling it "legal crap"... Does anyone see polarity in your posts besides me?  OD
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